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Using Pinterest in your wedding planning can be a fabulous way to keep all your wedding ideas organized. It is like carrying a bulletin board or wedding notebook around all the time. Working at a wedding store, I have brides show me their Pinterest boards every day. It helps me to get a feel for their vision, and understand their tastes.
But when can Pinterest go wrong?
- Taking on a project that is too complicated
- Using the same ideas everyone else is doing
- Mixing themes too much
- Getting overwhelmed by too many ideas
- Trying to take on more than you, or your budget can handle
You may have seen some of the websites with pictures of Pinterest fails. Bad nails, ugly cakes and craft projects that should just never been. This can happen if you take on a project that is too complicated. Close to the wedding is not the time to take on projects that will take many hours and days to complete. Save yourself the stress!
One of the things that can go wrong with Pinterest is too many people end up with the same ideas. They looked cute when you first saw them, but now that so many people have used them they loose the effect. Once you have pinned some things go back through and see if you see a common theme or color. Now try to take some of those elements that you pinned over and over and make them your own.
One of the pinning pitfalls is trying to mix too many themes. Sometimes themes mix, sometimes they don’t. Try to figure out what it is about the theme that appeals to you. Is it natural elements that you love? Lots of sparkle? Candles? Certain flowers? Colors? Figuring this out will narrow your choices a bit.
One of the comments I hear a lot is that Pinterest can be overwhelming. Just because you pinned it does not mean you have to do it. It can help to keep your pins on different boards. For example dresses on one board, recaption ideas on another. Maybe one for food ideas, or even drinks. This makes it easier to look through if you don’t have to wade through all your pins. Remember to make these boards private so everyone is not seeing all your ideas. You can share with individuals if you want.
Last but not least, don’t bite off more than you can chew. Make sure whatever projects you chose
- You can afford
- You have time to do
- You have help to do
- Will add something special to your wedding
Hopefully I have not scared you off Pinterest too bad. It is actually a very useful tool, I hope you can take advantage of.
Have you ever had success using Pinterest?
What about Pinterest fails?
Finding the perfect wedding venue is one of the first steps towards setting a date. There are so many options out there, it can be a challenge to find a place you love and still stay in budget. What you need to know before you start looking is:
- Where do you want to get married? Brides hometown? Grooms home town? Sentimental location? Destination?
- When do you want to get married? This year? Next year? Summer? Fall? Have a couple of dates in mind. You may not get the exact dates you want, so be sure you have some backups.
- You should also know approximately how many people you will be inviting. It is necessary to know this so you can be sure there will be room for the guest you want to invite.
- Will you do ceremony and reception in the same place, or do you need to book 2 places?
These are all questions that you and your significant other should discuss before starting to look for your venue.
Go on some visits
- How many people can it hold?
- Inside or outside?
- If it is outside, is there a rain plan?
- Are any tables and chairs included?
- Are any table linens included, or are there any available for rent?
- What kind of deposits are required?
- What about cancellation policies?
- Is there any staff available? A “day of” coordinator?
These are just a few things to keep in mind when venue shopping. Best of luck finding your dream location!
Now that you have some priorities set, it’s time to get in to the details of the planning. You can do your budget on a spreadsheet, or just a good old fashion piece of paper. The point is, just do it! I have created an Excel spreadsheet that I have linked on this page. Hopefully this will give you a good place to start.
One of the first spots to fill out on this sheet is your target budget (in the pink box.) This is the max amount you want to spend on your wedding.
One of the most important but probably least fun things you need to do to plan for your wedding is creating a budget. It does not matter how much money you have to spend you need to make plans so you can get the most out of your money. Not creating a budget can be one of your most costly mistakes.
One of the first pieces of information you’re going to need is your headcount. Before you even get started with your budget, sit down and come up with a guest list. You’re going to need this information in order to book your venue, to plan for food and to order stationery.
You should also have a max budget amount set. Consider where the money for your wedding is coming from.
My personal opinion is a wedding should not put you in a significant amount of debt. You may discover down the line that you regret it if you spend outside your budget. Consider other large expenditures that could come along in the next few years.
Now that you know what you want to spend, set some priorities for yourselves. What is the most important part of the wedding to you?
Try not to get overwhelmed with this process. This should give you a place to start on your budget planning. Next time I will continue with and creating a budget spreadsheet. Let me now if you have any wedding budget questions or tips.
Many brides will ask the question “what does a wedding coordinator do?” My simple answer is “whatever you hire them to do!” There are many types of services a wedding coordinator can perform from day of only, to full service planning.
So what is “day of” coordinating? Day of coordinating is just how it sounds. The coordinator will make sure your day goes as planned and can relieve the stress from the couple, their family and their friends. Typically you will meet with the coordinator about a month before your wedding to go over all the details of the day. When you book your coordinator you should be given a contract outlining all the services your coordinator will be preforming.
The coordinator will usually help you create a timeline so your wedding day moves along. They will contact all your vendors the week of the wedding and make sure everything is settled. They will distribute your timeline to all vendors such as the caterer, DJ, florist, officiant and anyone else involved in the wedding.
A day of coordinator will be there to take care of any emergencies that may come up during the day. You don’t want to have to worry that day if everyone is there and doing their jobs. Distributing any final payments and tips to vendors can be taken care of by your coordinator.
There may be other services your day of coordinator will do, but these need to be negotiated ahead of time. These may include setup, decorating, breakdown and cleanup.
So what about full service coordinating? This kind of coordinating will be there for you every step of the way. They can help you chose vendors and accompany you to your vendor meetings. They can helpful in negotiating contracts with vendors and make sure you get the services you need at the best possible price. They will also take care of your day of needs.
Try to meet with a couple of different coordinators and see who has the best understanding of your vision. You may also ask your venue for some recommendations. They have worked with many coordinators in your area and may have some insight for you.
Whatever you decide, if coordinator services fit into your budget it will only add to the stress free tone of your day. If you have hired a coordinator before, or have any questions, please leave your thoughts in the comments.
Are you ready to pull your hair out? I hope not! I hope wedding planning is enjoyable to you, but for many out there the stress of wedding planning is very overwhelming. Here is my best advise:
If you are newly engaged I hope to save you from some typical mistakes. If your wedding is around the corner I hope some last minute encouragement will get you through the rest of the process beautifully.
So what are some of the most common factors of wedding stress?
Lack of planning
When you are first getting your plans together it can sometimes feel like you have hundreds of decisions to make. How can you make them easier? First get some idea of how you will organize all the stuff that comes your way.
A wedding planner or just a binder or folder is a great start. A plus of buying a dedicated wedding planner is you will have timelines and checklists at your fingertips. The downside to this type of planner is sometimes the budgets are not very realistic for most brides.
A less expensive way to go can be finding some of the many printables available out there on the internet or there are lots of cool options available on Etsy. Some of them you can even download for free! Just get yourself and inexpensive binder, some dividers with pockets and maybe some business card holders.
Either way you decide to go getting organized from the start will be a huge stress saver for you. In my next post I am going to talk about planning to avoid stress, so keep checking back!